America the ‘Mixed’ Family (Family Part 2)

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The future culture of the American family:



What our families look like in the future is indicative of what the American culture will look like for generations to come.  This ranges from the fully functional/traditional nuclear family to the autonomy of “mixed families” that we see as a result of divorce, wedlock, or adoption.  America faces a great dilemma if it is to maintain any sense of identity.  One of the biggest issues that influences the future of America’s culture, is how it looks after children have been victims of social ills such as parental abuse, child abuse, separation, and divorce.  America’s fix-all cure for children left stranded by the vices of the cruelty of our culture is adoption or foster care.

Traditional Adoption:

Nuclear Family

Nuclear Family

The pitfalls that plague most forms of adoptions are preparing, and planning, the adopting family with the correct information such as behavioral, medical, and sociological issues pertaining to the adoptee.  These issues are not directly circumvented  by the child being adopted, rather it is to make sure that the adopting family has the proper education, and understanding, of the potential growing-pains that surround, and influence, the child being adopted.
Given the climactic change of culture in America, adoption agencies currently have a plethora of options pertaining to child placement, and types of family assignments allotted for healthy child growth.  Same-sex families are one of the options that adoption agency’s have available to find a good/stable home.

“According to data of the LGBT [Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, and Transsexuals] civil rights organization, the first wave of the baby boom in same-sex marriages swept across America in the 1980s, when methods of artificial insemination became available to lesbians.  Same-sex families began to adopt children legally in the 1990s.  The population census conducted in the United States in 2000 revealed that 34 percent of lesbian couples and 22 percent of gay (male) couples were bringing up children to the age of eighteen.  According to some data, between 16,000 and 6 million children are being brought up in same-sex families in the United States; according to other data, there are 1.5 million lesbian mothers and 1 million homosexual fathers in the United States.  About 6 million children have one parent who is a homosexual” [1]

Same-Sex Adoption:

gay adoption

gay adoption

There are many who view gay adoption as perverted, unfit, and immoral.  These are people who fear what the country will turn into if it is not the ideals or culture that raised them.  Organizations like “Family Research Council” claim that “there’s a connection between homosexuality and pedophilia.”  [2] People who have conservative views in America usually have a hard time accepting social change; even though it’s inevitable.  The “American Psychological Association” (APA) has researched the sexual orientation of children that were raised by same-sex couples and issued a policy statement confirming that “there is no reliable evidence that homosexual orientation per se impairs psychological functioning.  Second, beliefs that lesbian and gay adults are not fit parents have no empirical foundation.”  [3] It is obvious that child-rearing has little or nothing to do with whether or not  gay parents can provide a fit home for children in need of adoption.  The APA also states “Research suggests that sexual identities (including gender identity, gender-role behavior, and sexual orientation) develop in much the same ways among children of lesbian mothers as they do among children of heterosexual parents.” [4]

Social and cultural norms isn’t the biggest hindrance as-to whether same-sex couples can adopt.  The greatest obstacle thus far for most issues concerning the LGBT (“lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender” or GLBT) community in America is the Law.  The law has effected the LGBT community disallowing them the common freedoms given to all tax paying citizens such as marriage, divorce, and health care.  The law is deliberately pragmatic knowing that once adjusted, its sovereignty is applied to every citizen of the country.

Gay parenting:

Questions about same-sex parenting are usually pertaining to whether or not someone is allowed to adopt biological children of a same-sex partners (from a previous marriage), or if same-sex couples can jointly adopt children that have no biological relation to ether of the couple.  The legality of issues like these have produced a multitude of results that vary from state to state.  In every case of adoption in America the the welfare of the child is of the utmost concern.  Until marriage laws amongst the homosexual community stabilize nationally, it will be hard to determine what happens to the well being of an adopted child if same-sex couples separate or divorce.

Same-sex marriages are currently authorized in at least six states (New Hampshire, Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, Vermont, Maine) so the same-sex parenting laws in those states have quietly matured same-sex parenting laws.  The legal rights of same-sex parenting will grow as more states make previsions for the legality of same-sex marriages.

America’s cutting-edge culture:

No more Ordinary Family

No more Ordinary Family

Same-sex marriages and, same-sex adoptions, are clearly examples of the “signs of the times” in America’s cutting-edge culture.  The divorce rate in this country has plummeted contributing to the decline of the “traditional family model” and the rise of the “mixed family model.”  The greatest example of the future America’s family can be seen through the lens of adoption agencies across the country and the welfare of our children.  The family issues concerning future generations has nothing to do with the lifestyles (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transvestite ) of individuals, but it has everything to do with the commitment structures shaped by the promises that we have attempted to maintain– the failure of these commitments has resulted in the demise of the American family and thus the collapse of the American identity.

[1] SOLODNIKOV, V. V., and A. M. CHKANIKOVA. “Children in Same-Sex Marriages.” Russian Social Science Review 51.3 (2010): 38-59. Academic Search Premier. EBSCO. Web. 28 Nov. 2010

[2] “Washington Update” Family Research Council.

[3] Paige, R. U. (2005). Proceedings of the American Psychological Association, Incorporated, for the legislative year 2004. Minutes of the meeting of the Council of Representatives July 28 & 30, 2004, Honolulu, HI. Retrieved November 18, 2004, from the World Wide Web (To be published in Volume 60, Issue Number 5 of the American Psychologist.)

[4] Ibid.

Questions to ponder:

1. Should Gay’s be allowed to ADOPT?

2. How do you view a healthy Family?

3. How do you view the FUTURE of American Culture?

4. Are you concerned about the Foster Care system in America?

Dwayne Ghant is a Sr. Software developer at Temple University, who has been doing software development for the past 12 years.  My career has very little to do with who I am internally; that’s the part of me that always evolving.  And yes, I’m a Christian who fervently loves our Father through Jesus Christ.  I am also the co-founder of  As our culture continues to evolve, ever so rapidly, there has to be a united expression or an organization that is willing to capture the essence of post-modern Christendom – and write about it!  It is our intention to write about a myriad of issues pertaining to ethics, culture, society, and religion.  We won’t always focus on “Christianity”; instead we will focus on how to observe things through the wisdom of God!  Enough about me.  We really hope you enjoy our blogs.

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