America the ‘Mixed’ Family (Family Part 2)
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The future culture of the American family:
What our families look like in the future is indicative of what the American culture will look like for generations to come. This ranges from the fully functional/traditional nuclear family to the autonomy of “mixed families” that we see as a result of divorce, wedlock, or adoption. America faces a great dilemma if it is to maintain any sense of identity. One of the biggest issues that influences the future of America's culture, is how it looks after children have been victims of social ills such as parental abuse, child abuse, separation, and divorce. America's fix-all cure for children left stranded by the vices of the cruelty of our culture is adoption or foster care.
Traditional Adoption:
The pitfalls that plague most forms of adoptions are preparing, and planning, the adopting family with the correct information such as behavioral, medical, and sociological issues pertaining to the adoptee. These issues are not directly circumvented by the child being adopted, rather it is to make sure that the adopting family has the proper education, and understanding, of the potential growing-pains that surround, and influence, the child being adopted.
Given the climactic change of culture in America, adoption agencies currently have a plethora of options pertaining to child placement, and types of family assignments allotted for healthy child growth. Same-sex families are one of the options that adoption agency's have available to find a good/stable home.
“According to data of the LGBT [Lesbians, Gays, Bisexuals, and Transsexuals] civil rights organization, the first wave of the baby boom in same-sex marriages swept across America in the 1980s, when methods of artificial insemination became available to lesbians. Same-sex families began to adopt children legally in the 1990s. The population census conducted in the United States in 2000 revealed that 34 percent of lesbian couples and 22 percent of gay (male) couples were bringing up children to the age of eighteen. According to some data, between 16,000 and 6 million children are being brought up in same-sex families in the United States; according to other data, there are 1.5 million lesbian mothers and 1 million homosexual fathers in the United States. About 6 million children have one parent who is a homosexual” [1]
Same-Sex Adoption:
There are many who view gay adoption as perverted, unfit, and immoral. These are people who fear what the country will turn into if it is not the ideals or culture that raised them. Organizations like “Family Research Council” claim that “there's a connection between homosexuality and pedophilia.” [2] People who have conservative views in America usually have a hard time accepting social change; even though it's inevitable. The “American Psychological Association” (APA) has researched the sexual orientation of children that were raised by same-sex couples and issued a policy statement confirming that "there is no reliable evidence that homosexual orientation per se impairs psychological functioning. Second, beliefs that lesbian and gay adults are not fit parents have no empirical foundation." [3] It is obvious that child-rearing has little or nothing to do with whether or not gay parents can provide a fit home for children in need of adoption. The APA also states "Research suggests that sexual identities (including gender identity, gender-role behavior, and sexual orientation) develop in much the same ways among children of lesbian mothers as they do among children of heterosexual parents." [4]
Social and cultural norms isn't the biggest hindrance as-to whether same-sex couples can adopt. The greatest obstacle thus far for most issues concerning the LGBT (“lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender” or GLBT) community in America is the Law. The law has effected the LGBT community disallowing them the common freedoms given to all tax paying citizens such as marriage, divorce, and health care. The law is deliberately pragmatic knowing that once adjusted, its sovereignty is applied to every citizen of the country.
Gay parenting:
Questions about same-sex parenting are usually pertaining to whether or not someone is allowed to adopt biological children of a same-sex partners (from a previous marriage), or if same-sex couples can jointly adopt children that have no biological relation to ether of the couple. The legality of issues like these have produced a multitude of results that vary from state to state. In every case of adoption in America the the welfare of the child is of the utmost concern. Until marriage laws amongst the homosexual community stabilize nationally, it will be hard to determine what happens to the well being of an adopted child if same-sex couples separate or divorce.
Same-sex marriages are currently authorized in at least six states (New Hampshire, Connecticut, Iowa, Massachusetts, Vermont, Maine) so the same-sex parenting laws in those states have quietly matured same-sex parenting laws. The legal rights of same-sex parenting will grow as more states make previsions for the legality of same-sex marriages.
America's cutting-edge culture:
Same-sex marriages and, same-sex adoptions, are clearly examples of the “signs of the times” in America’s cutting-edge culture. The divorce rate in this country has plummeted contributing to the decline of the “traditional family model” and the rise of the “mixed family model.” The greatest example of the future America's family can be seen through the lens of adoption agencies across the country and the welfare of our children. The family issues concerning future generations has nothing to do with the lifestyles (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or Transvestite ) of individuals, but it has everything to do with the commitment structures shaped by the promises that we have attempted to maintain-- the failure of these commitments has resulted in the demise of the American family and thus the collapse of the American identity.
[1] SOLODNIKOV, V. V., and A. M. CHKANIKOVA. "Children in Same-Sex Marriages." Russian Social Science Review 51.3 (2010): 38-59. Academic Search Premier. EBSCO. Web. 28 Nov. 2010
[2] “Washington Update” Family Research Council. http://www.frc.org/get.cfm?i=WU10H07
[3] Paige, R. U. (2005). Proceedings of the American Psychological Association, Incorporated, for the legislative year 2004. Minutes of the meeting of the Council of Representatives July 28 & 30, 2004, Honolulu, HI. Retrieved November 18, 2004, from the World Wide Web http://www.apa.org/governance/. (To be published in Volume 60, Issue Number 5 of the American Psychologist.)
[4] Ibid.
Questions to ponder:
1. Should Gay's be allowed to ADOPT?
2. How do you view a healthy Family?
3. How do you view the FUTURE of American Culture?
4. Are you concerned about the Foster Care system in America?
Dwayne Ghant is a Sr. Software developer at Temple University, who has been doing software development for the past 12 years. My career has very little to do with who I am internally; that's the part of me that always evolving. And yes, I'm a Christian who fervently loves our Father through Jesus Christ. I am also the co-founder of lifeseek.org. As our culture continues to evolve, ever so rapidly, there has to be a united expression or an organization that is willing to capture the essence of post-modern Christendom - and write about it! It is our intention to write about a myriad of issues pertaining to ethics, culture, society, and religion. We won’t always focus on “Christianity”; instead we will focus on how to observe things through the wisdom of God! Enough about me. We really hope you enjoy our blogs.
Family, Culture, and the Future of Society (Family part 1)
On a monthly basis, lifeseek.org will be featuring a thought-provoking essay that is designed to stimulate healthy dialogue and a collective resolve to seek the face of God for answers of some of the most pressing issues of our age. Your participation and feedback is very important to us and we encourage you to leave your comments, facebook or tweet this post after reading.
The social relationships of humans are imperative to the structure of civilizations and its governance. By exploring the relational structure of “family” we can gather a great understanding of how dynamic relational structures in family evolved over time. For centuries the “family institution” has been noted for is sustainability, organizational structure, and its social influence amongst other cultural groupings. Exploring the American “nuclear family,” and how its evolved, can assist how we understand the family of today’s post modern era and the family of tomorrow’s pseudo-modern era.
The term “nuclear family” dates back to 1947 according to Merriam Webster [1]. It’s a term used in our modern society to describe the very structure of a family (which has been around for thousands of years). This term is also used to distinguish the household of a traditional family consisting of a father, mother, and children living in the same home.
The American “nuclear family” is traditionally noted for its consanguinity, affinity, and co-residence. A traditional family is usually defined as an organization that’s socially structure for blood-related relatives and is also the primary institution for children. The “family institution” will be a child’s first social interaction between people, community, and culture. We naturally form our understanding about traditions, morals, honor, and principles from our personal “family units.” It’s generally understood that the traditional family structure is the “de facto” of how people organize and arrange other successful structures in the American culture such as businesses, companies, corporations, and organizations.
This traditional structure of family in America was challenged, and potentially changed, by the advent of World War II (WWII). Aside from the economic challenges and depravity of American’s, because of this war, WWII participated in changing the gender roles in the American culture. For the first time in this country’s modern era, women were assigned the same labor intensive work that men were assigned to after the men began leaving for war. “The CIO unions were progressive in dealing with gender discrimination in wartime industry, which now employed many more women workers in nontraditional jobs. Unions that had represented large numbers of women workers before the war, such as the UE and the Food and Tobacco Workers, had fairly good records of fighting discrimination against women. Most union leaders saw women as temporary wartime replacements for the men in the armed forces. It was important that the wages of these women be kept high so that the veterans would get high wages.”[2] This country’s history shows the first instance in which women workers were justified doing the jobs of men. This would change the fabric of family in America; furthermore, it would add strain that was appended to the traditional family structure and began to erode the principles, morals, and culture of the family “American-modeled’ institution.
"World War II subjected the nation's families to severe strain. During the war, one-sixth of the nation's families suffered prolonged separation from sons or fathers. Five million "war widows" had to cook, clean, launder, and care for children alone. Wartime migration added to familial strain, as more than fifteen million civilians moved in search of new jobs. Wartime families faced a severe shortage of adequate housing and a lack of child-care facilities. These stresses contributed to a dramatic upsurge in the postwar divorce rate and to severe problems of child welfare, including tens of thousands of unsupervised "latchkey" children and high rates of juvenile delinquency, venereal disease, and truancy." [3]
It wasn’t until after WWII that Americans would try to re-establish the nuclear family model. After WWII there was a economic serge that assisted in producing what we culturally called the “baby boomer” generation (1943 - 1960). Though this resurgence of the economy influenced the baby boomer generation it wouldn’t be enough to re-establish the “nuclear family” model that help establish the American society. After WWII the “baseline” family model would be changed in America to include the extended family (grandparents, uncles, nephews, cousins). Currently, in our post modern society, we support roughly nine other dynamic family structures ranging from single parents to adoption.
During the 1970’s, non-nuclear family households increased 73 percent while nuclear family households increased only 13 percent (U.S. Bureau of the Census, 1980). This shows evidence of the changes that the American family model made from the “baby boomer” generation (1943 - 1960) to the current “baby buster” generation (1965-1976). These changes would later influence and give birth to what we know today as individualism.
“With these changes have come substantial changes in attitudes toward family life. For example, recent surveys show increasing acceptance of divorce, permanent singleness and childlessness (Thornton and Freedman, 1982). Changes in attitudes are normally explained by changes in the social structure. However, it is also possible that these effects are reinforced for individuals by their own experiences, causing further shifts in their family-related attitudes and behavior” [4]
The centrality of family has drastically changed from what used to be a societal norm. These changes have affected gender roles, sex, individual lifestyles, and morals in American culture. Individualism is primarily the model that our society currently uses to correlate our unique identities to a principle, or ethics, which, we suspect, should sustain relational integrity of our society. Essentially individualism is the idea that people’s “individual” morals can generate empirical values that should be shared (or tolerated) in the same society. This is the ideal that will that incubate the very future of the family model. The questions that may arise are “what could the future family possible look like?” or “How can the future of family be observed?”
British scholar Dr. Alan Kirby has formulated a term that named the era that succeeds the post modern era called “pseudo-modernism.” Pseudo-Modernism is a term to describe a superficial age where technology like the internet, mass media, and interactive television tries to give meaning and definitions towards something that “substance-less.”
Pseudo-modernism’s “typical intellectual states” are furthermore described as being “ignorance, fanaticism and anxiety” and it is said to produce a “trance-like state” in those participating in it. The net result of this media-induced shallowness and instantaneous participation in trivial events is a “silent autism” superseding “the neurosis of modernism and the narcissism of postmodernism.“ Kirby sees no aesthetically valuable works coming out of “pseudo-modernism.” [5]
The future uncertainty is usually a catalyst for reform. There’s a good chance that the future of the family (no matter its dynamic) will be a reformed version of the “nuclear family.” This newly formed model of the future family will influence society (just like the family models of the past). In the culture of this new family model it’s likely not to be language, or ethnic, specific but will have more of a global construct that will enable new global communities across continents worldwide.
Is there a difference between "BLOOD relative" and FRIEND ?
What is the FUTURE of the American Family?
Is having a "Family" crucial to your FAITH?
[1] "Nuclear family." Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary. 2010. Merriam-Webster Online. 25 Sept. 2010 http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/nuclear%20family
[2] “United States home front during World War II” Wikipedia. 2010. Wikimedia Foundation, Inc. . 25 Sept 2010 < http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_home_front_during_World_War_II >
[3] "Family Structures," Encyclopedia of American Social History. 3 vols. Charles Scribner's Sons, Reproduced in the History Resource Center, Farmington Hills, MI: Gale Group. Archived at: http://galenet.galegroup.com/servlet/HistRC Document No. BT2313027032 (1993)
[4] Nonfamily Living and the Erosion of Traditional Family Orientations Among Young Adults Linda J. Waite, Frances Kobrin Goldscheider, Christina Witsberger, American Sociological Review Vol. 51, No. 4 (Aug., 1986), pp. 541-554 Published by: American Sociological Association Stable URL: http://www.jstor.org/stable/2095586
[5] “Post-postmodernism” Wikipedia. 2010. Wikimedia Foundation, Inc. . 25 Sept 2010 < http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-postmodernism >
Dwayne Ghant is a Sr. Software developer at Temple University, who has been doing software development for the past 12 years. My career has very little to do with who I am internally; that's the part of me that always evolving. And yes, I'm a Christian who fervently loves our Father through Jesus Christ. I am also the co-founder of lifeseek.org. As our culture continues to evolve, ever so rapidly, there has to be a united expression or an organization that is willing to capture the essence of post-modern Christendom - and write about it! It is our intention to write about a myriad of issues pertaining to ethics, culture, society, and religion. We won’t always focus on “Christianity”; instead we will focus on how to observe things through the wisdom of God! Enough about me. We really hope you enjoy our blogs.
Marriage 2.0
On a monthly basis, lifeseek.org will be featuring a thought-provoking essay that is designed to stimulate healthy dialogue and a collective resolve to seek the face of God for answers of some of the most pressing issues of our age. Your participation and feedback is very important to us and we encourage you to leave your comments, facebook or tweet this post after reading.
In today’s society, we find a myriad of complicated issues steaming from race, health, sex and gender. These issues seem to be at the epicenter of our cultural norms. Most of the widespread issues in post- modern America stem from interpersonal relationships between people groups in our nation, and how people are adjusting to the changes that are taking place. One of the issues that is under public scrutiny in this society is marriage. Marriage affects the very fabric of society from the structure of family to its cultural norms. By exploring the rapidly changing laws around the subject of marriage, we can observe the demographics of the "institution of marriage" and how that institution has potentially changed to grow in post modern America.
A modern day definition of "marriage" gives us clues on how people associate commitment and a life-long relationship with their partner. Marriage is defined as (paraphrased):
- the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law
- the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage, the mutual relation of married persons, (wedlock) the
institution whereby individuals are joined in a marriage
- an act of marrying or the rite by which the married status is effected; especially : the wedding ceremony and attendant festivities or formalities (1)
The current "legal" definition of marriage is a contracted collaboration of two people who have agreed to commit themselves to one another for the rest of their lives until one of them dies, or one of the couple decides to terminate the agreement. The word "united" in the definition of marriage is too broad of a term considering that marriages are traditionally consummated by sexual intercourse between a male and female. This traditional definition of marriage involves more than just sex but also the potential of raising a family.
Traditional Marriage
The most historical sanctions of marriage can be found in almost every religion in the world. It has become so ingrained into our society so that the religious rite itself has secular benefits which have become regulated, and defined, by the government and its individual states in America. Some religious traditions make marriage, and "holy matrimony," to be the exclusive union between a single man and a single woman. Christianity, Judaism, and Islam all follow the “same-styled” practices of marriages in America.
There are some lawful interests in which the government governs marriages that are religious and non-religious. Marriages seen outside of religious practice are deemed as a "civil marriage." A civil marriage has the same fundamental interests such as child support, family, and paternity. These are a few examples that show the legal structure of marriage as seen by law. In America, when someone religiously marries they also are civilly married by the state. This legal structure is made to protect all parties in the marriage including the siblings that were born inside that marriage.
Alternative Marriage
Over the last three decades, the "cultural" definition of married has changed and grown in America to include “same-sex marriage.” Same-sex marriage has produced much controversy as to what marriage is, including the issue of whether same-sex marriage (homosexual marriage) should be given the same rights as traditional marriage. Support for same-sex marriage is usually based on two factors, "universal human rights" (which is steeped in the philosophy of distinguishing "natural rights" from "legal rights"), and allowing the “homosexually married” to be viewed just as "equal before the law" as the traditional marriages are viewed today. Arguments opposing homosexual marriage are usually centered around religion and parenting.
One of the goals of homosexual(s) in America is not to try to change the religious and sanctimonious definition of marriage but to legislate civil marriage to include and accept same-sex marriages. People who oppose these factions usually do so on the grounds of religion and "social morality" (e.g. social ethics). Religious people fear that "gay marriage" might weaken the institution of marriage itself; adding to the current problems and divorce rate that exist in America today. The social ethics of "what tomorrow's communities will look like" seems to be a “passive-concern” among traditionalists in this country especially in religious communities.
Plural Marriage
If civil marriage can be amended to include same-sex marriages, can it also be amended to include more than one spouse in a marriage? There’s currently a general consensus, in America, that polygamy will be the next “civil rights” battle. There’s a fine line between homosexual and heterosexual, but is there fine line between monogamy and polygamy?
Almost always, when the legalization of polygamy is brought up, it's used to make a case against gay marriage. Most notably, Sen. Rick Santorum of Pennsylvania told the Associated Press in 2003 that legalizing gay sex would pave the way for legalized bigamy, polygamy and incest. (2)
Polygamy is rising in this country to become a social/culture norm. When our federal courts permit same-sex marriage in the country people suspect that polygamist groups will also begin to legislate their rights to have more than one spouse.
The role of the state in a marriage ceremony (currently) is to witness and confirm that two people are becoming "lawfully wedded". This means that any parties that participate in such a ceremony are legally recognized as "married" by the state. This idea of marriage would drastically change if our federal courts were to license polygamy marriages as a “legal and lawful union.”
The Promise
Most people would agree that marriage is more than a legal contract — there are emotional, and traditional observations that are ingrained into our culture concerning the structure and definition of marriage. No matter how the definition of marriage is changing, the most important aspect of marriage, whether it be heterosexual or homosexual, is that each person has decided to commit to a “promise." This promise has to be to themselves, to honor someone greater than themselves and to other individual(s) in that institution – whether it be a person, child, or second wife. The structure of marriage can evolve or change, but a foundational principle that is overlooked is the commitment of individuals not just to an institution- or a definition- but to a Person bigger than themselves. Similar and the overall commitment to God. Promises can’t be legislated by law and its governing body – nor should it be; but it can be witnessed by the state through a license that’s lawfully binding. Marriage may look different from an outward perspective but the principle of commitment bound together by a “promise” will always be the very fabric of that marriage institution.
1. Why is homosexuality a “TABOO” subject in the black communities, but not a “TABOO” subject in the white communities?
2. Should Civil Right Laws issues apply to the homosexual communities?
3. Are the issues of homosexuality, in America, considered an issue of Human Right or Civil Rights?
4. How can the church serve homosexuals?
5. Have you, individually, educated yourself on the issues of alternative lifestyles, and homosexual communities?
6. How would you project the future of the American FAMILY?
[1] Merriam-Webster. Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary. Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary. [Online] April 28, 2010. [Cited: April 28, 2010.] http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/marriage
[2] NewsWeek. Polygamists, Unite! Newsweek.com. [Online] March March, 2006. [Cited: April 28, 2010.] http://www.newsweek.com/id/47068.
Dwayne Ghant is a Sr. Software developer at Temple University, who has been doing software development for the past 12 years. My career has very little to do with who I am internally; that's the part of me that always evolving. And yes, I'm a Christian who fervently loves our Father through Jesus Christ. I am also the co-founder of lifeseek.org. As our culture continues to evolve, ever so rapidly, there has to be a united expression or an organization that is willing to capture the essence of post-modern Christendom - and write about it! It is our intention to write about a myriad of issues pertaining to ethics, culture, society, and religion. We won’t always focus on “Christianity”; instead we will focus on how to observe things through the wisdom of God! Enough about me. We really hope you enjoy our blogs.













