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20Mar/120

To Be Young, Gifted, and Called

March 2012: Featured Post

On a monthly basis, lifeseek.org will be featuring a thought-provoking essay that is designed to stimulate healthy dialogue and a collective resolve to seek the face of God for answers of some of the most pressing issues of our age. Your participation and feedback is very important to us and we encourage you to leave your comments, facebook or tweet this post after reading.


raisin in the sun

raisin in the sun

In 1964 Lorraine Hansberry, the award winning playwright of “Raisin in the Sun” addressed an audience of young African American writers at a United Negro College Fund banquet.  She spoke of the responsibility of being young gifted and black, “surrounded by the whirling elements of this world….neither on the fringe or utterly involved: the prime observer waiting poised for inclusion”.1  She encourages these young writers to pen the wisdom excavated from the despair, life, and love they have experienced living in a nation that has despised their color and was afraid to acknowledge their humanity.  To write about the world as it is and out how they dream it should be.

Although I was not in that crowd of young African American writers that day, and wasn’t even thought of for that matter, Lorraine’s words to be young gifted and black…and to dream about how the world should be… still ring in my ears 50 years later, but in a slightly different way. The challenge and gift I face is not only being

 Lorraine Hansberry

Lorraine Hansberry

young gifted and black, but being young gifted and called.  At the age of 20, I received what people in religious circles refer to as “the call”. I was several months away from graduating from college with my Bachelors of Social Work, and was making plans to continue my education (Master’s of Social Work) at the University of Maryland, when “it” came.  The “it” was a feeling that the plans I had so meticulously intended for myself were now being interrupted by a Force greater than me, a Force that I could run from…but not for too long.  Although my plans to obtain a Master’s were “good” and the most logical next step in my educational journey, I was feeling compelled to do something that seemed bigger than my most wildest dreams and aspirations for myself.  This “thing” seemed to be linked to a grander picture, than me and “MySpace” and required me to trust the Voice of the one who knew my very being before I was born and created me with a purpose in mind.

pediatrician

pediatrician

Up until this point, I knew I wanted to help people.  As a little girl I wanted to be a pediatrician because I liked babies, and wanted to make a lot of money.  Then as a teenager, I thought I would become an interior decorator because I loved art and fashion.  By the time I got to college, I turned my attention back to the helping profession and decided to declare social work as my major.  It seemed like a good fit; my friends were always coming to me for someone to listen to them, I found gratification in helping people, and I enjoyed being around people.  I initially enjoyed my social work classes and by my junior year I had decided to pursue the Master’s of Social work degree, and possibly a JD.  But it wasn’t until I started my internships that I began to see a disconnect in the social service world.  Having grown up in a Christian home, I started to wonder why the social service world seemed to completely focus on the material needs of clients, not even assessing their spiritual needs.  We were told we could not talk about religion or spirituality unless the client initiated it.  It almost felt like a taboo subject.  So here I was three years into my program, wondering how the gap between the “spiritual” and the “secular” would be bridged or if it could be bridged, asking God where God was in the midst of my clients’ crisis and in their dire need of basic life necessities.

You may be wondering what does all this have to do with what it means to be young, gifted, and called.  As my dad says, “I’m glad you asked”!  I believe my story as a young 20 year old trying to figure out my career path and finding myself asking questions that I cannot solve by myself, points to what Sharon Parks describes as the central work of young adults, to ask big questions and discover worthy dreams.  It was in the midst of asking these questions when I heard a “call” to embark on a journey and a way of being in the world that looked beyond myself and recognized that there were questions to be asked, and answers sought that would impact families, communities, and institutions.  At first I thought this call would confine me to the church, and if this was so, I felt too young to be so serious about God and the church.  I also felt ill-equipped.  What possibly could I share with people older than I or younger that they would want to hear?  I was “neither on the fringe or utterly involved” in adulthood or childhood.

As these anxieties sought to filter in I was reminded of Paul’s admonition to Timothy, “Don’t let anyone despise your youth”.  To be young is to have an energy and strength that one doesn't have to work at obtaining.  When one is a child you have the energy but not necessarily the strength.  On the other hand when one is an adult or older adult you may have strength but not the vigor and energy you once had as a young adult.  There is something about this in-between or liminal space between childhood and adulthood that I believe God wants us to hone into.  I want to begin this conversation about what it means to be young gifted and called by first addressing what it means to be young.

Previously, I described young adulthood as a liminal moment in one’s life cycle, not a child nor an adult.  This concept of liminality was developed by Arnold van Gennep to describe the structure of rites of passage rituals in different cultures.  The structure involved preliminal rites (rites of separation), liminal rites (rites of transitions), and post-liminal rites (rites of incorporation).  It was in the “liminal rites” phase where the initiand becomes a blank slate “through the removal of previously taken-for-granted forms and limits” and the intiand experiences “considerable changes” to his or her identity, and passes “through the threshold that marks the boundary between” the separation rite and the incorporation rite.2  Like the structure of rites of passages, it is in the liminal space of young adulthood, which can span from 20-40 years of age, where considerable changes to one’s identity, belief systems, and support networks begins to take place.  Parks states that is it in the beginning of young adulthood where, “the experience of the birth of critical awareness and the dissolution and recomposition of the meaning of self, other, world, and “God” takes place.3

In some ways there are removals of what Gennep described as “previously taken for granted forms and limits”.  In young adulthood we are re-evaluating the values that were once taught us, we are questioning those in authority and striving to make the answers our own (not because grandma told me so).  We are coming into our own, and getting comfortable in our own skin.  Furthermore, we are experiencing some of the greatest transitions we will experience in our life time (leaving college, starting careers, establishing homes, getting married, having children etc.).  It is precisely in these critical moments when our dreams of what the world ought-to-be like begin to form, and we have the energy and strength to make it so.  I believe it is in this critical moment of young adulthood when we begin to hear and even search for that call, which will give our life greater meaning and purpose.

To be continued…..

What does it mean to be gifted and called?


1. http://www.duboislc.org/html/YoungGiftedBlack.html
2. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Liminality

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17May/110

Seminary or Cemetery

May2011: Featured Post

On a monthly basis, lifeseek.org will be featuring a thought-provoking essay that is designed to stimulate healthy dialogue and a collective resolve to seek the face of God for answers of some of the most pressing issues of our age. Your participation and feedback is very important to us and we encourage you to leave your comments, facebook or tweet this post after reading.

Seminary or Cemetery

Seminary or Cemetery

The Calling?

In December 2010,  PBS: Independent Lens aired a four hour documentary tracing the lives of 7 seminarians of differing faiths called "The Calling" as they embarked on answering the call to serve people.  As I watched the lives of these young adults, I began to reflect on my own faith journey and the road I traveled through seminary.

I vividly remember 5 years ago when I announced to my home church that I was attending seminary.  A lady at my church approached me almost with tears in her eyes.  She took my hands and said to me, “Alisha, I know you love God, but don’t let seminary cause you to lose your faith.

You know what they say about seminary, it can become like a cemetery.”  I was not quite sure what to make of her comments.  What did she mean seminary can become a cemetery?  I had to ask myself, would going to seminary make me lose my religion?

Would learning things my Sunday school teacher did not teach me; make me doubt God or the Bible?  What exactly would seminary do to me?  Needless to say, I was convinced that seminary would give me the preparation I needed for ministry, so her words did not deter me.

And so I went ready to learn, but not ready for the death that was to come.

The Death of Me

Those three years in seminary were possibly the hardest time in my life.  I experienced death and loss in almost every area of my life.  Away, from home and all those that I loved, I had to deal with multiple deaths my first year in seminary.

Every time I turned around I was receiving a call that someone had died, a mother from cancer, best friend from college, childhood pastor, aunt, uncle… I couldn't make sense of it.  Why would God bring me thousands of miles away from home, to have people I loved so dearly die left and right?  Then there was the loss of my own identity, an identity that was formed by my community.

Now that I was geographically separated from this community, I had to find out who Alisha was outside of my parents, my church and my hometown.  I grieved for that little girl who everyone knew.  I was now in a city and environment where no one knew my name.

Seminary

Seminary

Theologically, there were areas where I did lose my footing.  Some of the lessons that were taught in Sunday school didn’t seem to take into account the full density of life.  As a part of our seminary training we were encouraged to work at a hospital as an intern chaplain.

I remember one night, after the tragic earthquake in Haiti; a police officer stopped me in the hallway and asked me why God allowed this to happen.  I was at a loss for words.  I too was wrestling with the tragedy of this event.

Other religious leaders were weighing in on the cause of the devastation of Haiti.  But given the tenderness of this moment in history, I could only stand in the unknowingness of this situation.  I have found that we can be so quick to give an answer; we miss out on the opportunity to connect with the humanity of another through uncertainty; for it is our uncertainty of the complexity of life that truly reveals our finite humanity.

And in these situations we are face with our own mortality, we are faced with the reality of the grave.

Unless A Seed Falls To the Ground And Dies...

If anything my journey through seminary has taught me that death is a natural process in life.  I’m reminded of Jesus’ lesson about the seed that falls to the ground.  He tells his disciples that a seed must fall to the ground, be crushed by the Earth and die in order to bear a harvest.  If this is the law of nature, is it possible this law could apply to our faith.

Is it possible that one’s knowledge of God, image of self, and even our relationships must go through a process of death in order to bring about an even greater harvest?

Like me you may be scared to die.  You may be scared for all that you knew and held to be true about God and yourself to be buried under dirt or burned to ashes.  I can tell you I’m still trying to get up from the grave, I’m trying to get up out of this soil—but there’s more that needs to die in me.

Henri Nouwen reminds us that, “a seed only flourishes by staying in the ground in which it is sown.  When you keep digging the seed up to check whether it is growing, it will never bear fruit.  Think about yourself as a little seed planted in rich soil.

All you have to do is stay there and trust that the soil contains everything you need to grow.”


Minister Alisha Tatemwas born in Allentown, PA to Pastor Melvin and Jacqueline Tatem. She attended Messiah College and received her bachelor’s degree in social work. After graduating from college she worked for Early Head Start as a Child Development Partner, and served as a youth minister at Grace Deliverance Baptist Church for three years. She was licensed to preach on May 20, 2007 at her home church in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania and presently serves on the ministerial staff at Total Grace Christian Center, in Decatur, GA. She will be graduating from Columbia Theological Seminary, May of this year with her Master’s of Divinity, and looks forward to pursuing further education in pastoral counseling. If there is one thing that describes Minister Tatem best it would be that she has a heart for young people and she is passionate about seeing young people give their lives over to God in the midst of competing societal pressures. It is her hope that she would be able to touch many people’s lives on this life journey and one day hear God say, "Well done my good and faithful servant."


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4Nov/102

Let’s Talk about Sex

October 2010: Featured Post

On a monthly basis, lifeseek.org will be featuring a thought-provoking essay that is designed to stimulate healthy dialogue and a collective resolve to seek the face of God for answers of some of the most pressing issues of our age. Your participation and feedback is very important to us and we encourage you to leave your comments, facebook or tweet this post after reading.

Salt-n-Pepa

Salt-n-Pepa

Depending on how old you are, some of you may recall when Salt-n-Peppa released the song “Let's talk about sex”.  I remember when I first heard the song as a 9 year old girl; I thought the song was quite catchy; I had memorized the hook, which quite frankly wasn’t hard to remember because it just said “Let's talk about sex”.  BUT I did not dare want my parents to catch me listening or singing this song.

It wasn’t until recently that I actually read all the lyrics to this song and realized their message actually may have been one my parents would approve.  The lyrics to the song was not promoting young people to go out and have sex, but they were telling us that sex without real love and commitment leaves you empty.  This song really could have been a teaching moment in my family.  The issue, I am learning, is that neither families nor society as a whole know how to effectively talk about “taboo” subjects, such as sex.  Yes, we try to sell products with it, we broadcast it, we desire it, but we don’t talk about it.  And I’m not referring to having sex education classes (where you learn about STDs, contraceptives etc.).  I’m talking about having a meaningful conversation about the purpose of sex, and what our desire for sex tells us about our identity as humans made in the image of God.

Henri Nouwen

Henri Nouwen

Henri Nouwen states that “desire is often talked about as something we ought to overcome.  Still, being is desiring: our bodies, our minds, our hearts, and our souls are full of desires.  Some are unruly, turbulent, and very distracting; some make us think deep thoughts and see great visions; some teach us how to love; and some keep us searching for God” (Bread for the Journey).  So what does our desire for sex tell us?  Does it just reveal the “animalistic” side of humans, or our need to procreate in order to keep the human race in existence, or is it deeper than that?  Does it reveal our need to be intimate with others, to be in relationship with others and loved?

Nouwen goes on to say that “Our desire for God is the desire that should guide all other desires.  Otherwise our bodies, minds, hearts, and souls become one another’s enemies and our inner lives become chaotic, leading us to despair and self-destruction.”

So I end my musings with this thought, how can our desire for God, who knows us fully and accepts us completely, guide our desires for sex and our desires to be intimate with another human being?


Minister Alisha Tatemwas born in Allentown, PA to Pastor Melvin and Jacqueline Tatem. She attended Messiah College and received her bachelor’s degree in social work. After graduating from college she worked for Early Head Start as a Child Development Partner, and served as a youth minister at Grace Deliverance Baptist Church for three years. She was licensed to preach on May 20, 2007 at her home church in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania and presently serves on the ministerial staff at Total Grace Christian Center, in Decatur, GA. She will be graduating from Columbia Theological Seminary, May of this year with her Master’s of Divinity, and looks forward to pursuing further education in pastoral counseling. If there is one thing that describes Minister Tatem best it would be that she has a heart for young people and she is passionate about seeing young people give their lives over to God in the midst of competing societal pressures. It is her hope that she would be able to touch many people’s lives on this life journey and one day hear God say, Well done my good and faithful servant.


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